Wednesday, November 4, 2009

A whole different perspective on service.

This post is long and might be very boring to some. This blog acts as a journal for our family and this is something we want to remember. I just feel so grateful and blessed and want to share my feelings. So two weeks ago I blogged that I was 37 weeks and moving. Well that was a bit of a lie! We ended up not moving that week and in fact moved this past weekend. Wow was it stressful. I was expecting my water to break at any minute, but it didn't and I am in fact still pregnant. We have known for a while that we were going to be moving soon, but didn't know the exact date. I boxed everything up with help from my mom and Hayley, so when the moving time came we would be good to go. We found out on Thursday, and by Thursday night I had cleaned the apartment and had a load of boxes brought in. The next day Hayley came over and we unloaded the kitchen! That night Josh and John brought another load over and my mom, Hayley and I stayed there unpacking and ordered some pizza. At this point I was pretty overwhelmed, but able to stay calm. Well Saturday hit and I sort of had a mental breakdown. Ok, so I didn't sort of have one, I did have one! I think it was a mixture of stress, hormones, moving out of our house and ward, and being so grateful for all of the people that were helping us. It is really easy to serve other people, but receiving it is hard. I would rather do things on my own than feel that I am inconveniencing others. But, with us moving and me being a week away from having a baby, I didn't have a choice! I saw the other side of service and the way that a person feels when they receive it. I am so grateful for the good friends and family that were there to help. Here is what I am talking about......Wayne Dodd let us borrow his big trailer. The Elder's Quorum, my dad, John, Ted, Josh and Wayne loaded everything into the trailer and then unloaded it at our new place. All of that was done in 2 hours, it was awesome. Then my dad, John and Ted went back out to the house and got all of our clothes and food (something I thought I was going to have to do). When all of that was unloaded into our tiny apartment, the feelings of frustration just kept a comin. My body hurt, and the thought of unpacking this stuff was more than I could handle. So..... I went to my parents house to shower and take a break. While I was there Hayley, my mom, and my mother in-law unpacked all of our boxes, cleaned stuff and put clothes and food away. My father in-law and Josh put shelves up in our garage and in our laundry room for more storage. When I walked in a few hours later, it was a whole different place! If I hadn't already shed some tears I would have burst into tears right then and there. I couldn't believe all that had been done. Everything was organized and in its place, there were clean sheets on the bed and the shelves were done. Then when I thought enough had been done for me, my Aunt Holly called and invited everyone that had been moving all day to come to her house for dinner. It was so nice to have a good meal and for those that had been working all day to sit down and relax for a bit. Then we went back to our place and my dad, my father in-law and Josh put together the crib and changing table. After everyone had left, my sweet mom stayed until midnight helping me clean. I went to bed that night in a place that felt like home, and it is because of all those hard working people that were there to help. I want to thank all of you that helped with the move and have helped in other ways in the last few days. We appreciate it so much. It was a bad time for us to move, but something that had to be done and we couldn't have done it with out all of your help. One day we will return the favor I promise. Thanks for putting up with a hormonal pregnant girl that wasn't a lot of help. Josh, I love you and am so grateful for your support and the hard work that you put into this move. I am so happy we made this decision, so I can stay at home with Drake. I know we will be blessed and I get to be what I have always wanted to be when I grow up...... a mom!!

8 comments:

Whitney said...

Oh my goodness Ash! That brought tears to my eyes! That is so great! I'm glad everything went well with the move and so many awesome people were there to help! You're so lucky!

Shirlene said...

If you are even half as fabulous at being a mom as your mom, Drake will be a lucky little guy!

Hayley Neil said...

A big fat your welcome! We are so glad we were able to help you guys because we love you so stinkin' much! You are amazing and I am so grateful to have you as my best friend!! Michael Jackson for life!

Hayley Neil said...

I don't know why I wrote that last sentence. It just came out and I clicked post before I could even change it. I think it's because I can't stop thinking about how awesome that was and it might also be because Michael Jackson is in me. Man, I gotta get me a purple silk shirt...

Danielle said...

That is what service is all about!
It's sad that you are not in our ward anymore. I don't like change! But, I am glad you had this experience. You will be blessed because you let others serve you!

We moved into our house now when Chase was two weeks old, in the dead of winter. I stayed in a heated bedroom with the baby while my family whole family moved us out. I was no help at all. But, sometimes, that is the way it is!

Anonymous said...

I can relate to your hormone meltdowns and I am not even close to being in labor! I'm so glad everything went without a hitch. Having everything in place will be so nice when baby Wood makes his entrance into the world!

Lindsay said...

Wow! What a blessing. It's great to have such good friends and family! I'm glad it went that smooth! :)

Kylee said...

Wow, that's amazing! I'm glad everything is good now and I hope everything goes well when the baby comes. I'm so excited for you and I think it's so awesome that you'll be able to stay home with him!